I went back to the post after having a lengthy discussion with the Captain about what it means to be "sexy." Then he took the time to explain the differences between "sexy," "hot," "dirty," and "pretty." I finished the night no more enlightened, and frankly a little annoyed because I didn't have one personal fun moment in the day. And I don't ask for much, people, just a little time to write or surf the Internet and connect with all of you. I didn't even get to sit and fall asleep during an hour of television.
Anyway, I've given up on that post for now. The subject matter was prompted, in part, by the Captain telling me I'm very sexy. My response was "I think I'd feel sexier if I lost ten pounds." Then I remembered this article by Ashley Judd, and got to thinking about how I view my body. So in lieu of my post, I offer you her thought-provoking piece.
In other, more exciting, news: I'm going to see Snow Patrol tonight! They are performing in New York City! I am allowing the Captain to accompany me, even though that will diminish my chances of running away with the band. It's probably better that way. After all, one guy in your hand who thinks you're sexy is worth two lead singers in the bush...wait a minute.
You know what I mean.
Here are the awesome boots I will be wearing!
The Captain got me motorcycle boots for my birthday last year, but they didn't fit right, so I traded them in for this pair. They're made by Ariat, a company I first read about on Kari Lynn Dell's blog, Montana For Real. It's like Harley Davidson and Ty Murray had a punk-rock love child who grew up, became a shoe designer, tapped into my dreams, and cobbled these...
You know what I mean.
OMG I LOVE THOSE BOOTS! *sigh*
ReplyDeleteI think perhaps the sexy post is so difficult because sexy is so subjective. But perhaps that's a conversation for another day.
Have an awesome time at Snow Patrol!
I went back and properly linked them, just in case you want to window shop.
DeleteYeah, the post was about external judgment, and how we all get our ideas of beauty from outside sources, but maybe some of it's hard-wired, and then my brain scrambled.
I will report all about Snow Patrol next week!
Yay for taking those boots out for a good time!
ReplyDeleteAlso DH once confounded me by trying to explain the difference between slutty and sleazy. I gathered that one or the other of them wasn't necessarily a negative but I didn't quite understand why or how.
ReplyDeleteI don't get it either. I was trying to get him to identify what makes a woman sexy, because I was trying to identify where we get our ideas of beauty. Like, why did he think Kate Jackson was hot, but Farrah Fawcett was sexy? I'm still confused.
DeleteI think this is one of those areas where men and women use the same words but don't really mean the same thing.
ReplyDeleteLove the boots!!
Adored that article by Ashley Judd - so articulate and well-written.
Yes, I couldn't have stated the case nearly as well. Hence, boots.
DeleteWow, Meg. Way more blingy than I would have predicted for you. And more colorful too. You go girl, and have an awesome evening in the magic boots :)
ReplyDeleteI appreciate a little bling every now and then. And skulls. Three thought it was silly to hide them under jeans, but I told him as long as I knew they were awesome, I didn't have to show off.
DeleteIt was a fun night, but my ears are still tinny.
Love the boots, the other stuff? After a day with Donald Maass (and a bunch of other writers) my brain is so scrambled I don't even want to know the difference between them.
ReplyDeleteI'll read Ashley Judd later.
Ashley is worth a read when you're unscrambled. Sometimes too much information is a bad thing.
DeleteThose boots are fun. I hope you have a wonderful time listening to Snow Patrol with your husband who thinks you're sexy!
ReplyDeleteThe Ashley Judd article was powerful. The whole situation behind it makes me feel powerless. Why is it so easy to shift consciousness in a negative evil direction and so difficult to shift it back?
That's the eternal question. It's easier to be mean, but I don't know why. And it's so frustrating when women tear down other women!
DeleteBoots!!! I adore those.
ReplyDeleteI don't think I've EVER discussed "sexy" with anyone. Not really a concept that even enters my mind.
Well, I can count on one hand the times I've felt "sexy." So I was trying to get the Captain to explain what "sexy" is, because I can't imagine when he looks at me and, say, Sofia Vergara that the same definition applies. But then I thought that might be me interpreting what our fucked up society has deemed "sexy" when it really could be about more than just body parts. Then my head exploded. The whole point is that I talk and talk to my teens about liking girls for more than just how they look in jeans (or less, usually), but I don't know if I'm going to win that battle-for my boys, or the girls. Sigh.
DeleteThe boots are AMAZING.
ReplyDeleteBased on the tweets, I'd say the concert was a success.
(And so much easy to think about than Ms. Judd's article. It's not that I disagree with her, but it makes my heart heavy.)
I can now scratch "See Snow Patrol" off my list of life goals! It was a small venue, which is a great place to see a concert, and although I feel a little beat up today (I'm old), I would go again in a minute.
DeleteI read the article and felt the same way. But we have to keep fighting, no?
These boots are made for walking, and that's just what I'll do....
ReplyDeleteI love it when I know I have something on that makes me feel sexy and yet isn't really visible to the world. It's like my little secret. : 0 Yay! boots!
On the subject of sexiness: I think it's confidence. Being happy in your own skin and radiating out that inner glow. You can't define or capture it...it just is. It's an inner knowing. Some of the ugliest guys are the sexiest. ; )
What I did get from the Captain is that sexiness flows from a person, so it's more attitude than just "looks."
ReplyDeleteI read a quote from an NBA player once, who said he couldn't compete with singers for women. No matter how successful he was, the guys who strapped on the guitars and sang would always get the dates. I think this proves your theory-no matter how unattractive or goofy, it's the confidence, the emotion, that brings the sexy.
Loved the Judd thing--good for her (and us!)
ReplyDeleteLove the boots.
Love the life-goal-concert crossed off!