Today I spent an inordinate amount of time on-line, most of it reading a conversation between some fantastic women about shame, worthiness, love, and vulnerability. If you want to see what we were talking about, I think this link will work. http://www.ted.com/talks/lang/eng/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html And if you're curious about the fabulously wordy women, you should visit http://lucymarch.com/.
I felt pretty good about myself when I was done watching, because I've done some courageous things in my life, survived some challenges, and my life view is still: It will all be okay. This is my mantra. It's not particulary profound, but it's reality based, so most times I make it even more casual, and use the conjunction for ease of use. It'll all be okay. Don't you like the way the "ells" roll off the tongue?
It'll all be okay.
It'll all be okay.
The simplicity of my mantra helps me cut through the disorientating effect of anger/ grief/ depression/ anxiety, so I don't get lost in the maelstrom. I know me; I know what I'm capable of (good and bad), and I know that in the end, it'll all be okay. I know this to be true, because my father died when I was nineteen, I pushed away everyone who loved me and became a drug addict, my first baby had a pre-natal stroke, my fourth is autistic, my house flooded and we had to live in a hotel, my mother is battling a fatal disease, and yet...I'm okay. I'm here. I'm fighting. I'm loved. I love.
The mantra hasn't always been with me, guiding me through the pain. The mantra was born of the pain, and the recognition that I surmounted it. Sometimes, when life looks bleak, I remember I've been here before, and it'll all be okay. We all struggle, but I hope you recognize all that you've accomplished, and can call on your inner strength when you need it.